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For the Good of the Cause: Transparency, Tension, and a Surprising Turn at the East Brunswick Board of Education

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What began as a standard end-of-meeting segment — “For the Good of the Cause” — became one of the most extraordinary evenings the East Brunswick Board of Education has seen in years.

A simple procedural item turned into a raw public conversation about communication, transparency, and leadership. In a town that prides itself on civic engagement, this meeting reminded everyone why transparency is both difficult and necessary.


A Motion Few Saw Coming

After routine votes wrapped up, Board President Dr. Heather Guas invited closing remarks. Instead, Dr. Jaime Falco asked for the floor.

“Madam President, I move to discuss a vote of no confidence in board leadership.”

The room quieted. Even seasoned observers were surprised — votes of no confidence are rare in local boards and, while symbolic, they speak volumes.

Dr. Falco explained her reasoning plainly:

“It’s come to this board’s attention that there have been difficulties in communication and transparency. Those of us who sit up here are of equal standing. When business is conducted on our behalf and without our knowledge or consent, we believe that, according to Roberts Rules, we have the right to discuss a vote of no confidence.”

Her concern stemmed from an email that had gone out to every family in the district announcing the selection of a new superintendent — an email signed solely by President Guas and labeled “on behalf of the Board.” Several members said they had neither seen nor approved the message before it was sent.


Dr. Figueroa quickly seconded the motion.


Dr. Tanious stated that she echoed the frustration that many in the community have voiced for months.

“I received that email as a parent,” she said. “It was disheartening to receive that when I am an appointed official. We are a board of nine. The president of the board is the first among equals. It does not give you the authority to act on behalf of the board without consent of the board.”

Dr. Tanious emphasized that this wasn’t personal:

“This has nothing to do with Dr. Valeski or any administrator. This is about leadership. Respectfully, Madam President, don’t call me a liar. Everyone here knows the email delays we’ve experienced.”

The exchange, firm but civil, crystallized a long-standing tension: how information flows from administration to the board, and from the board to the community.


“Nothing to Report”

President Guas defended her record, pointing to the sheer volume of correspondence she receives.

“The emails from this board are substantial,” she said. “I read them all. I’ve tried to be more responsive, and I will send weekly updates if that’s what the board wants — even if the update simply says, ‘I have nothing to report.’ ”

That remark drew a pointed response from Dr. Tanious:

“There should be something to report. You’ve said you speak with Dr. Valeski daily. How is it possible that there’s nothing to report from those conversations?”

Her comment resonated beyond the dais. For months, parents and teachers have questioned why major developments — from budget presentations to administrative hires — seem to reach social media before they reach the board itself.


Dr. Pan: “We Lost the Pattern of Communication”

When Dr. Wilbur Pan spoke, the conversation shifted from accusation to analysis.

“From my point of view, there’s been a consistent pattern of limited communication that could have been more frequent, more regular,” he said. “During the superintendent search, communication was highly successful. Afterward, that pattern went away.”

He described learning about district matters indirectly — from community events or online posts — rather than through structured board updates.

“It would have been nice for us to know that such meetings were happening. Even a simple ‘things are in process’ would go a long way.”

Dr. Pan stressed that his comments were not political.

“This is not about the election. No one should weaponize this. It’s about leadership, not membership.”

Later, as the discussion wound down, he added somberly:

“Given the tenor of this conversation, it seems clear that the root cause lies in communication from leadership. Our number-one priority should be the students, and that means ensuring a seamless transition for our new superintendent.”

His remarks — calm, methodical, but unmistakably disappointed — drew nods from several colleagues and from many in the audience.


Dr. Falco: “Equal Standing Means Equal Information”

Returning to the floor, Dr. Falco clarified the intent behind the motion.

“A vote of no confidence is not a censure. It’s a declarative statement that we are dissatisfied with the way communication is being handled.”

She cited repeated unanswered emails, inconsistent updates, and confusion over who could speak publicly on behalf of the board.

“Equal standing means equal information. If board members are finding out about district actions as parents, not as officials, something is broken.”

To longtime observers of East Brunswick meetings, her comments reflected a theme that has surfaced all year — questions about process and chain of communication rather than ideology.


Tim Cummings: “We Need a Plan”

When Tim Cummings spoke, the temperature in the room lowered. His remarks were measured but candid.

“Things don’t always work out the way we intend,” he said to Liwu Hong, who had just offered an emotional apology for his own misstep involving an unapproved dinner invitation between the incoming superintendent and the mayor. “I respect and appreciate that your intention was pure.”

Turning to the broader issue, Cummings continued:

“Leadership in any organization is complex. I don’t envy the role of president. But we need a plan. We can’t move anywhere without one. Right now everybody’s confused, everybody’s frustrated, and that doesn’t work. Let’s focus on building a plan that gets everyone rowing in the same direction.”

He also underscored the urgency of preparing for the superintendent transition.

“We still don’t have a plan, and that’s not fair to her — or to us. We’re in the midst of the most massive transition this district has seen, and we need leadership that can pull all of these bright minds together.”

Many in the audience later described Cummings’ remarks as the night’s “reset moment,” steering the conversation from blame to solutions.


Liwu Hong

“My Intention Was to Help, Not to Hurt”

In one of the night’s most emotional moments, Liwu Hong stood to clarify his role in what he described as a misunderstanding that had spiraled into mistrust.

I NEVER LIE,” HE SAID, VISIBLY SHAKEN. “MY INTENTION WAS TO HELP, NOT TO HURT. IF THE PUBLIC BELIEVES I MADE A MISTAKE, I APOLOGIZE FROM MY HEART.

Hong explained that his decision to invite the incoming superintendent and the mayor to dinner was made with good intentions — to build bridges, not to bypass protocol.

I ALWAYS TRY TO HELP THE COMMUNITY,” HE SAID. “IF PEOPLE THINK I MADE A MISTAKE, I’LL TAKE THE BLOW.

His remarks momentarily shifted the tone of the meeting, underscoring how personal actions and missteps can quickly become part of larger questions about communication and accountability.


Dr. Braun: “I Hate Surprises”

Dr. Anna Braun, though brief, spoke for many when she said:

“I hate surprises. Don’t give me a surprise party. I want to know things ahead of time. This has been an ongoing issue — we shouldn’t be learning about presentations or proposals on Facebook the next day.”

She recalled discovering a major facilities presentation only after community members contacted her. “That’s not good. That’s inappropriate,” she said simply.

Her words distilled what parents, teachers, and even some administrators have expressed privately: that governance by surprise undermines trust.


Dr. Tanious: “Equal Authority Means Shared Information”

As the conversation circled back to Dr. Tanious, she doubled down on the principle of equality among board members.

“We are a board of nine, and we have equal authority,” she said. “If you’re getting so many emails from so many board members, that should be a very telling sign that there is a communication failure somewhere.”

She rejected the notion that her persistence was bothersome.

“I like to make informed decisions. When I rephrase questions, it’s because I didn’t get an answer. That’s not pestering — that’s governing.”

Her composure through the exchange drew quiet support from residents who later praised her for “speaking the frustration many of us feel when information is withheld.”


An Uncomfortable but Honest Vote

After nearly an hour of discussion, the board’s attorney reminded members that a vote of no confidence carries no legal consequence; it is a public expression of sentiment.

When the roll call came, seven voted “yes,” one abstained, and President Guas voted “no.” The motion passed 7-1-1.

There was no applause, no visible celebration — only a subdued silence that conveyed how difficult the decision had been.

Even Dr. Pan, who had earlier considered a follow-up motion, clarified that his comments were “not meant for entertainment” but for the sake of “moving the district forward.”


The Communication Deficit

This meeting laid those grievances bare, with nearly every board member acknowledging that something fundamental had gone wrong in how information travels inside the district.

Tim Cummings called it a “deficit”—a gap that leaves the board rowing in different directions. “We can’t move anywhere without a plan,” he said. “Everybody’s confused, everybody’s frustrated, and that doesn’t work.”

Dr. Anna Braun called the breakdown “inappropriate,” saying board members shouldn’t be blindsided by events or find out about district matters through Facebook. “I hate surprises,” she said flatly. “I want to know things ahead of time.”

Dr. Jaime Falco described the situation as “a pattern” of limited transparency that erodes the equality of the board. “Equal standing means equal information,” she said. “If we’re learning about decisions as parents instead of as board members, something is broken.”

Dr. Wilbur Pan compared it to “a blank wall of information.” “During the superintendent search, communication was highly successful,” he said. “Afterward, that pattern went away. Even a simple, ‘things are in process’ would have gone a long way.”

Dr. Marianne Tanious called it “a failure somewhere along the line.” She noted that a high volume of board emails should signal a systemic issue, not an inconvenience. “If you’re getting that many messages, that tells you there’s a problem with the process, not with the people asking questions.”

Laurie Herrick spoke to the emotional toll of that vacuum, saying the disconnect “creates fractions and silos.” She said, “We shouldn’t have to find out that other people know more than we do. It makes us feel like we’re working in the dark. We all want to be at the same table.” Herrick urged the board to adopt a clearer communication plan and more frequent meetings: “Meeting once a month isn’t setting us up for success.”

Dr. Louis Figueroa—who ultimately voted yes on the motion—kept his remarks brief but echoed the theme of imbalance, saying that leadership works only when “everyone feels informed and respected.”

Even President Heather Guas acknowledged the strain. She described her inbox as “197 pages of emails” and admitted, “It’s a tricky path. This has been both an excellent and a rough experience.”

Liwu Hong called the situation “a misunderstanding that turned into mistrust.” He said, “I NEVER LIE. MY INTENTION WAS TO HELP, NOT TO HURT.” Hong explained that his actions were meant to strengthen relationships within the community, not to cause confusion. “I ALWAYS TRY TO HELP THE COMMUNITY,” he said. “IF PEOPLE THINK I MADE A MISTAKE, I’LL TAKE THE BLOW.” His comments added a personal dimension to a broader discussion about communication and accountability.


A Community That Still Values Transparency

If there was any silver lining, it was that this conversation happened in the open. No closed session. No back-room debate. Just an uncomfortable but necessary airing of concerns in front of the public that elected them.

Residents have been asking for precisely that — honesty, even when it’s messy.

“You can’t fix what you won’t talk about,” one parent said afterward. “At least now they’re talking about it.”

In a township where political temperatures have run high, moments like this suggest a deeper civic maturity: disagreement without abandonment of civility, critique without contempt.


Looking Ahead

With the election weeks away and a new superintendent preparing to take office, the board’s ability to rebuild trust will shape East Brunswick’s next chapter.

Dr. Falco summarized that challenge best:

“This isn’t meant to embarrass anyone. It’s about ensuring that Dr. Mamman is set up for success.”

Cummings agreed:

“Our number-one priority is the students. For them to thrive, we need clear communication and unified direction.”

In the end, that is what the community wants — a board that models the transparency it expects from others.

For now, residents can only hope that for the good of the cause was more than just a meeting segment — that it marked the start of a genuine commitment to clarity, collaboration, and trust.

Compliance Over Compassion: Why Schools Keep Failing Students with Disabilities

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Compliance Over Compassion: Why Schools Keep Failing Students with Disabilities

By Rachel B.

Over the past few months, I’ve heard far too many stories — from parents in our own district and from families across the state — about how exhausting and dehumanizing it can be to secure the services their children are legally entitled to. These aren’t isolated incidents; they form a troubling pattern of parents having to beg, plead, and fight for the very supports that should be automatic under the law, often not being successful in their fight, or having to expend so much wasted energy in the process. 

One recent story that struck a nerve came from a parent right here in town — someone who gives endlessly to our community and advocates for all children, of all ability levels. Yet when she needed the district the most — when her own child needed understanding, compassion, and support — the district turned its back. With the right services denied or delayed, her family was left with no choice but to look outside the district for a school that could meet her son’s needs. And sadly, her story isn’t the exception; it’s the symptom of a much deeper problem in how our systems view, value, and serve students with disabilities.

As a special education teacher myself, I’ve witnessed my share of compliance issues, ethical lapses, and moral failures within systems that should know better. I’ve seen what happens when the focus shifts from children to checklists, from individualized education to institutional preservation. And I’ve watched good educators burn out trying to hold a system accountable that was designed to protect itself and not the children they are tasked with educating.

How Can This Keep Happening?

How is it that school districts can shout compliance from every mountaintop — and still live in a constant state of non-compliance when it comes to the students who need them most?

How can a system that claims to champion equity so often treat the families of students with disabilities, 504 plans, or other specialized supports as nuisances to be managed rather than partners in education?

These aren’t rhetorical questions. They’re the lived reality of families and educators — myself included — trapped inside a system more concerned with optics, budgets, and paperwork than with actual human progress.

The Systemic Disconnect

Parents are told the law is on their side — IDEA, Section 504, FAPE. But those same laws are often wielded by districts as shields instead of protections for children.

Unless a parent knows how to navigate acronyms, deadlines, procedural safeguards, and the semantic gymnastics of “recommendations,” their child will almost certainly receive less than what they are legally entitled to. The bureaucratic special education speak and educational legalese can leave parents reeling, oftentimes leaving them worse than before the meetings began.

Many parents don’t even realize what questions to ask, what data to request, or how to recognize when they’re being stonewalled by jargon. And that’s exactly how the system sustains itself — behind a curtain of “policy language” that keeps parents at arm’s length and children underserved.

It’s compliance theater: a performance of doing what’s right, without the substance to back it up. And it is morally and ethically wrong, no matter which way you say it.

The Culture of Elitism

An elitist mentality runs deep in many districts — a hierarchy that places general education at the top and special education somewhere near the bottom, sandwiched between “nice to have” and “too expensive.”

Students who learn differently are too often viewed as burdens, disruptions, or drains on resources instead of essential members of the learning community. That attitude trickles down.

When adults model avoidance or condescension, students internalize it. They learn that inclusion is conditional — a performance for special events or kindness campaigns, not a daily truth. It is not something infused into daily practice, instead, it’s more like a yearbook photo op.

“We preach inclusion, but we don’t practice belonging.”

Until belonging becomes a lived experience rather than a themed spirit-week activity, our schools will remain segregated in spirit — even when they share the same building.

The Reality for Special Educators

Behind every student who struggles is a special educator fighting an uphill battle: balancing compliance paperwork, differentiated instruction, behavior plans, emotional crises, and impossible caseloads — all while being treated as support staff instead of instructional leaders.

As one of them, I know the exhaustion of writing legally defensible paperwork while trying to meet the emotional and academic needs of real children sitting right in front of me. I know the heartbreak of seeing services cut or watered down because “there’s no budget,” and the frustration of being told to “make it work” anyway.  I know the frustration of inappropriate professional development opportunities, lack of tailored curriculum and instructional resources available unless I create them or buy them with my own money,  and the feeling of only being invited to participate in activities when my students “fit in”, rather than fitting the programs to meet the needs of ALL students. 

Special educators are the professionals translating law into practice — the bridge between the abstract promises of IDEA and the lived experience of a child finally learning to read, communicate, or self-regulate. Yet too often, we are the least respected, the most overworked, and the first to be cut when budgets tighten. Districts forget that every “modification” or “accommodation” is a human being making it possible.

What Needs to Change

  • Transparency: Parents deserve plain-language explanations of rights, procedures, and progress. No more gatekeeping through jargon.
  • Accountability: Compliance audits should measure not just paperwork, but outcomes. Is the child actually learning? Growing? Included?
  • Respect: Special educators must have equitable pay, planning time, and voice in curriculum design as it relates to the students they serve and know better than most.
  • Cultural Shift: Schools need to move beyond awareness days and toward authentic, everyday inclusion — not a performance, but a practice.

A Call to the Community

If you are a parent — learn your rights. Ask questions. Bring someone to your meetings. Document everything. CYA (Cover Your A**)!
If you are a teacher — use your voice. Don’t let silence make you complicit.
If you are an administrator — remember that compliance is the bare minimum. Compassion is the standard your title demands.
And if you are a student — see your peers with differences for what they are: whole, capable, brilliant in ways that might not fit your rubric, but are just as valuable and contributory! 

Until our schools learn that compassion can’t be measured in checkboxes or compliance reports, the children who need us the most will keep falling through the cracks — not because they can’t, but because we wouldn’t.

East Brunswick Town Council President Failed to Stop Hate Speech — and an Apology Is Owed to the Community

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At the October 13th, 2025, East Brunswick Town Council meeting, residents witnessed something that no community should ever experience: hate speech allowed to continue in our municipal chambers. What unfolded wasn’t a heated political debate — it was the normalization of bigotry under the guise of free speech, permitted by the very person responsible for maintaining order and respect.

Early in the public portion, Fran Snowise took the podium and delivered a thoughtful reminder about civility and responsibility.

“Recent council meetings, and even tonight, are featuring language and accusations that cross a crucial line,” Snowise said. “Free speech allows for the open exchange of ideas… hate speech targets individuals or groups using language intended to vilify, humiliate, or incite hatred. This is not just offensive, it’s dangerous, and it’s eroding our community fabric.”

Snowise urged the council to adopt a code of conduct for meetings — one that would set clear expectations for respectful discourse, including a prohibition on personal attacks and hateful language. It was a plea for decency, and one that should have been heeded immediately.

Just moments later, another resident took the microphone and proved exactly why that warning was necessary. The speaker, who identified herself only by her street name, accused Israel of being involved in “a live-streamed Holocaust of Palestinians,” calling Israelis “terrorists,” “baby killers,” and “rapists.” She claimed:

“People who are living there don’t belong to that land… Israeli terrorists killed babies, bombing them while they slept… They know if one Palestinian survives, Israel will never be at peace.”

Her remarks escalated further — blaming “Israeli terrorists” for war crimes, claiming they “control the U.S. government,” and even accusing Council President Kevin T. McEvoy himself of being “complicit in this Holocaust.”

Those are not political opinions. They are hate-fueled accusations rooted in long-standing antisemitic tropes — the kind of rhetoric that tears communities apart and endangers residents right here at home.

When the hateful remarks continued, instead of intervening to stop them, Council President McEvoy responded:

“First Amendment rights are recognized here. I beg your pardon, you may continue.”

In that moment, McEvoy didn’t defend free speech — he allowed hate speech to continue unchecked. East Brunswick’s own policy explicitly forbids “personal, impertinent or slanderous remarks.” New Jersey law requires presiding officials to bar discriminatory or harassing statements that target protected groups. McEvoy’s refusal to act violated both.

Allowing such remarks in our council chambers is not a neutral act. It sends a message that hate has a place in East Brunswick’s public square. It makes Jewish residents feel unsafe. It tells every minority that their dignity is negotiable, depending on who’s at the microphone.

After the exchange, another resident — whose name was not clearly heard on the recording — stepped forward to make a different kind of appeal. His tone was calm and constructive. He spoke about the need for true community dialogue and warned that without spaces for open conversation, division will only deepen.

“If we want the fabric where neighbors talk to neighbors, let’s create that space,” he said. “Mayor Cohen has heard that from some of us, but unfortunately no one has taken it upon themselves. As a township, I’m afraid we are not creating those spaces where we can have those conversations. Otherwise, these disagreements are going to bubble up. Let’s hear each other out in a civil manner, even when we disagree — over a cup of coffee or tea or whatever it takes.”

His words reminded everyone that while residents may hold differing views, there is a shared longing for civility and connection — a desire for leaders to foster understanding rather than allow meetings to devolve into hostility.

East Brunswick is better than this. We are a town known for inclusion, compassion, and community spirit — not for silence in the face of hatred.

Council President McEvoy failed in his most basic duty: to protect the integrity of public discourse and the safety of our residents. His inaction during this meeting was more than a lapse in judgment — it was a violation of the public trust.

The East Brunswick community deserves acknowledgment and accountability. We call on Council President McEvoy to issue a public apology to the residents of this town and to the Jewish community for allowing hate speech to continue unchecked in a public forum.

We also urge the entire Town Council to adopt clear meeting guidelines and training to ensure this never happens again. Every person on that dais — the council members, the township attorney, and Mayor Cohen — had the ability to speak up or advise the Council President when the line was crossed.

Hate speech is not protected in our council chambers, and it never should be. If we allow it to stand, we risk losing the very character that makes East Brunswick strong — our unity, our empathy, and our shared commitment to one another.

This video picks up right as Fran Snowise takes the podium, followed by the next speakers.

Editor’s Note: All quotes in this article were transcribed directly from the publicly available video recording of the October 2025 East Brunswick Town Council meeting. While not an official transcript, every effort has been made to ensure accuracy.

East Brunswick Board of Education Candidates Weigh In on Budget, Books, Special Ed, and Superintendent Accountability

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At this year’s EB PTA Presidents’ Council: “Town Hall with the Candidates for EB Board of Education”, candidates vying for seats on the Board of Education were asked a range of questions — but not the same ones. In a departure from past formats, each candidate received four unique prompts, drawn from public submissions. This format allowed for deeper, more tailored answers and revealed the priorities, values, and thinking styles of each participant.

Some candidates were pressed on governance and budgeting. Others addressed curriculum, special education, or student mental health. And for two candidates competing for a one-year seat, the questions grew even sharper, particularly around past resignations and controversial comments.

Current board president Heather Gaus, candidate Neal Shah, and one-year seat candidate Mary Peterson were all absent from the forum.


🟦 Dr. Anna Braun (Incumbent, Three-Year Term)

A retired music teacher, Dr. Braun, ran in 2024 after proposed cuts to the beginning band and orchestra program. Now seeking a full term, she brought candid insight from her time on the board.

Q1: How do your voting restrictions impact your effectiveness?
Braun explained that because her daughter works part-time at Churchill and she is a retired NJEA member, she is restricted from participating in certain votes — including on superintendent evaluations. However, she emphasized that she’s voted over 400 times. “If I have to abstain once in a while, it’s not like nobody else can pick up the slack,” she said.

Q2: How have you addressed issues like budget, anti-bias education, bullying, and communication?


Dr. Braun didn’t mince words. Calling the 2025 budget process a “dumpster fire,” she criticized the administration for presenting a 77-line list of budget cuts with no advance review. “We can’t be rubber-stamping chaos,” she said. She emphasized that leadership requires preparedness, not surprise drops of information. On communication, she voiced clear frustration: “Why am I finding out about issues on Facebook as a board member? That’s not okay.” She said families and staff deserve clarity, not confusion. Regarding bullying, she called for more responsive systems to ensure students feel safe and supported, and parents don’t have to go public to be taken seriously. Dr. Braun also advocated strongly for anti-bias education, stressing that teaching equity and respect is not a political stance — it’s a moral obligation. “We can’t prepare students for the real world if we’re afraid to talk about it,” she said.

Q3: What is the role of parents and the community in school success?
Braun praised the format of the forum and called for more two-way dialogue. She wants parents to be allowed more than three minutes to speak at board meetings and pushed for the release of results from parent/student surveys conducted in May.

Q4: How would you protect arts programs during budget cuts?
“We already cut 25% of elementary art and music time. That’s unacceptable,” she said. Braun warned against spending cuts to high-enrollment programs and criticized the district for paying $20,000 to scare away geese while cutting popular classes.


🟦 Kimberly Conetta (Three-Year Term)

An EBHS graduate, Conetta is a special needs parent and president of the East Brunswick Arts Coalition.

Q1: How do you balance professional, volunteer, and family roles with the BOE commitment?
Conetta, who works in regulatory compliance, credited her supportive workplace, flexible schedule, and a capable team at the arts coalition for allowing her to serve. “My board is amazing — they could probably do the job without me,” she said.

Q2: What’s your view on redistricting and school capacity issues?
She supports evaluating redistricting options. “It’s time. Memorial has 24 kids in some fourth-grade classes,” she said. “This is about fairness and relieving pressure on teachers.”

Q3: What are the district’s strengths and weaknesses regarding special education?
Conetta praised EB’s special ed programs once a student is identified but said many parents struggle at the front end. “The district needs to do more to help families navigate early concerns,” she said. “You shouldn’t have to ask the exact right question to get help.”

Q4: How should the board respond to concerns about low test scores?
She supports testing as a tool but wants teachers to have flexibility. “Right now it’s day 1: teach, day 2: practice, day 3: quiz — and no time to slow down. That doesn’t work for all kids.”


🟦 Marianne Tanious (Incumbent, Three-Year Term)

Tanious is a mother of two and a corporate executive who was appointed to the board in July.

Q1: What impact have you made in your short time on the board?
Marianne said she came in ready to ask tough questions from day one. She pointed to challenging supervisor appointments that she felt were being rushed without enough transparency. “Consensus is great, but we can’t confuse that with silence,” she said, emphasizing that board members have a duty to speak up even when it’s uncomfortable.

She also highlighted her role in pulling a proposed class size policy that could have negatively impacted students and teachers. Marianne explained that board members need to be more than just rubber stamps — they need to actively review policies and advocate for what’s best for the district. “My impact has been holding space for dialogue, demanding clarity, and making sure the community’s voice is heard in every decision,” she added.

Q2: How did your professional background help during the superintendent search?
Tanious applied corporate leadership lessons to the interviews. “I looked for emotional intelligence, not just credentials,” she said, also referencing her notes from community focus groups.

Q3: Would you raise taxes to fix the budget?
“No. Not unless we exhaust every other option,” she said. She cited missed reimbursements, lighting inefficiencies, and the need for shared services as areas for cost savings.

Q4: What is the board’s biggest challenge in the next three years?
Tanious focused on rebuilding culture. “Our teachers, students, and superintendent need to work in sync,” she said. “That starts at the top — and it’s been broken.”


🟦 Liwu Hong (Incumbent, Three-Year Term)

Dr. Hong, an attorney with degrees in chemistry and law, is seeking his fourth term on the board.

Q1: How do you respond to dissatisfaction with board decisions?
“I’m not surprised. Even my wife and I have disagreed with board decisions,” he said. “Our job is to make decisions for all of East Brunswick — not individuals.”

Q2: As curriculum chair, how do you view early literacy and ELA pilot concerns?
Hong strongly supports the new pilot. “Language is the foundation for every subject,” he said. “If students need one-on-one, let’s do it. We cannot let anyone fall behind.”

Q3: What creative solutions have you pursued to solve the budget crisis?
He emphasized lobbying for state formula changes and highlighted personal donations to EB schools. “I’ve donated to robotics labs and proposed a greenhouse,” he said. “We all need to help.”

Q4: How do you plan to support the new superintendent?
Hong said he’d help develop an actionable plan and propose public posting of progress. “I will do my best to help her understand the district and set realistic goals,” he said.


🟦 Maria Mueller (Three-Year Term)

At 18, Mueller is a recent EBHS graduate and seeks to be the first voting member of the board with a student’s perspective.

Q1: Are you prepared for the role, and how would your youth be an asset?
“Yes, because EB prepared me,” she said. “I took 8 AP classes, learned time management, and I’m still connected to current students.”

Q2: What are the challenges for special ed families, and how would you improve IEP/504 processes?
She called for reducing stigma and integrating students into more community-based programs. “Workshops, job training, and social inclusion matter,” she said. She also called for routine feedback and more superintendent accountability.

Q3: Do you support building a new high school, and how would you fund it?
“Yes,” Mueller said, citing overcrowding and facility concerns. She proposed bonds and grants but also raised ideas like alumni donations and stadium sponsorships.

Q4: Would you raise taxes to preserve programs?
“Only as a last resort,” she said. “It’s regressive and unfair to low-income families. Raise parking permits before club fees.”


🟨 Antoinette Evola (One-Year Term)

Evola is the current Hammarskjold PTA president and artist.

Q1: Why run for a one-year seat instead of three?
“I want to see if I can be effective on the inside,” she said. “I’m tired of advocating from the outside and want to influence decisions before they’re finalized.”

Q2: Do you support book banning?

Evola gave one of the most direct answers of the night. “I’m not banning books — I’m drawing lines around sexually explicit material,” she said. She cited passages involving sexual acts, masturbation, oral sex, and doggie style, calling such content “inappropriate for minors and unacceptable for classroom reading.” Evola said the issue wasn’t representation or diversity in literature, but “age appropriateness.”

She criticized what she described as “porn literacy” being introduced under the guise of sexual health education.

Q3: Would you raise taxes to solve the budget?
“No,” she said. “We need to review the budget line by line and look at revenue creation. If you let them raise taxes once, it’ll keep happening.”

Q4: What’s the biggest challenge facing EB schools in the next five years?
“The budget,” she said. “We’re going to lose more state aid. We need to preserve classrooms, teachers, and programs without relying on tax hikes.”


🟨 Jeff Winston (One-Year Term)

A former board member and financial advisor, Winston resigned in 2023 after clashes with other board members. He’s now seeking to return — briefly — to “reset the culture.”

Q1: Why did you resign before a major budget crisis?
“I didn’t quit. I raised awareness,” he said. “If I stayed quiet, none of you would be here. I created Take Back EB Schools. That’s what woke people up.”

Q2: What’s your plan for addressing special education needs?

Winston said the district is consistently failing its most vulnerable students — those with special needs. “We keep sending kids out of district because we don’t invest here,” he said. “Let’s start by reallocating funding from seventh-grade sports and get serious.”

He emphasized that students with IEPs and 504 plans deserve meaningful support within their home district, not red tape or delays. “Parents shouldn’t have to fight tooth and nail for basic services. We need to stop treating special education as a checkbox and start treating it like a commitment.”

Winston argued that the BOE must advocate for more training, more aides, and a culture shift toward inclusion. “If we can fund new sports programs, we can absolutely invest in kids who need speech, OT, or behavioral support. The fact that we don’t says everything about our priorities.”

Q3: Would you reverse the decision to move fifth grade to Hammarskjold?
“Yes,” he said. “It was predicated on a lie — that a high school would be built by 2025. Sell the Route 18 admin building. Put the money into students.”

Q4: How would you work with board members you’ve criticized?
“They’re gone,” he said bluntly. “My plan is to return for one year, establish a five-priority goal system, hold the superintendent accountable, and then I’m out.”


🔚 Final Thoughts

This PTA forum gave the community more than campaign slogans — it gave context. With each candidate answering different questions, voters got to see who is prepared, who is passionate, and who has a plan.

East Brunswick Sports Weekly — The Pride of the Green and White

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If you wore green and white this week, you probably left with a smile. From tennis masterclasses to goal-fests and a fourth-quarter field hockey surge, EB athletes gave us plenty to cheer about. Save this one — it’s a fridge-worthy week.

🎾 Girls Tennis — “Bring Your Best, We’ll Bring Better”

The machine keeps humming. EB ripped through four opponents with poise and swagger.

Storyline: Stacy Arkhipova’s depth and pace keep setting the tone at 1st singles, while Arya Joshi and Kellyanne Mossi are closing the door at 2 and 3. Doubles chemistry? Chef’s kiss — Wang/Patel and Baraian/Zhao look tournament-ready.

Results

  • Mon, Oct 6: EB 4, J.P. Stevens 1

    • W: Arkhipova 6-1, 6-2 • Joshi 6-1, 6-3 • Mossi 6-1, 6-0

    • 1st Doubles: Patel/Wang 6-3, 3-6, 10-5

    • 2nd Doubles: Baraian/Zhao 3-6, 7-6(7), 5-10

  • Tue, Oct 7 (CJG4 QF): EB 5, Jackson Twp 0

    • W: Arkhipova 6-0, 6-0 • Joshi 6-1, 6-0 • Mossi 6-0, 6-2

    • 1st D: Wang/Patel 6-0, 6-0 • 2nd D: Zhao/Baraian 6-2, 6-0

  • Thu, Oct 9 (CJG4 SF): EB 4, Montgomery 1

    • W: Arkhipova 6-0, 6-3 • Joshi 7-5, 6-0 • Mossi 6-1, 6-0

    • 1st D: Wang/Patel 7-6(7), 6-3

  • Fri, Oct 10: EB 5, Monroe 0

    • W across the board: Arkhipova • Joshi • Mossi • Wang/Patel • Baraian/Zhao (all in straight sets)

Parents’ brag line: “Four matches. One week. One team on a mission.”


⚽ Girls Soccer — “Sharing is Caring… and Scoring”

Storyline: Ball movement, width, and unselfish play = goals galore. Jacqueline Goldovsky had herself a week: a three-assist masterpiece vs. Piscataway, a hat trick vs. South Brunswick, and the table-setting continues.

Results

  • Tue, Oct 7: EB 6, Piscataway 0

    • Goals: Harvey, Docherty (G+A), Baker, DeSiena, Goldovsky (1G/3A), Aleixo

    • GK: Moore & Docherty combined 2 saves; SOG: EB 20–2

  • Thu, Oct 9: EB 4, South Brunswick 0

    • Goals: Goldovsky (3), Ilnitskyy; Assist: Cheraibi • SOG: EB 27–3

  • Sat, Oct 11: Marlboro 4, EB 1

    • Goal: Arevalo (assist Goldovsky)

Parents’ brag line: “Everybody eats — six goals, five assists, two clean sheets.”


🏑 Field Hockey — “Fourth-Quarter Fireworks”

Storyline: Cardiac Bears! After 45 minutes of chess with South Plainfield, EB struck twice late, then followed with an 8-0 statement at Piscataway. Rachel Gerould dropped a four-goal gem.

Results

  • Tue, Oct 7: EB 2, South Plainfield 1

    • Goals: DeMaio (G+A), Salamon • GK: Balsamo 7 saves

  • Thu, Oct 9: EB 8, Piscataway 0

    • Goals: Gerould 4, Blatties 2, Kovarcik, Dziubeck; Assists: Hooper, DeRado, Patel, Rose

Parents’ brag line: “Clutch on Tuesday, unstoppable on Thursday.”


⚽ Boys Soccer — “Answering the Bell”

Storyline: Took a lump, learned from it, answered with purpose. Ben Lyons bagged a brace when it counted.

Results

  • Tue, Oct 7 (GMC Pool): Woodbridge 1, EB 0

  • Thu, Oct 9 (GMC Pool): EB 2, Sayreville 0

    • Goals: Lyons 2 • Assists: Dela Cruz, Ndao • GK: Hanas 6 saves

Parents’ brag line: “We bounce back.”


🏐 Girls Volleyball — “Grit Travels”

Storyline: A tidy win midweek showed the ceiling. Union Catholic was tough, but the team’s communication and first-touch work keep trending up.

Results

  • Tue, Oct 7: EB 2, Woodbridge 0 (26-24, 25-18)

  • Fri, Oct 10: Union Catholic 2, EB 0 (25-10, 25-15)

Parents’ brag line: “Sweep one day, lessons the next — growth is in session.”


🤸‍♀️ Gymnastics — “Sticking the Process”

Storyline: Against two strong lineups, EB’s all-arounders kept stacking clean routines. Isabella Wasserman led with a 33.25 AA vs South Plainfield; Alexandra Cooperman popped top-3 scores on vault and bars all week; Ellah Levi steady on beam and floor.

Results

  • Tue, Oct 7: Union Catholic 100.225, EB 94.875

    • EB AA: Levi 31.775 • Wasserman 31.7 • Cooperman 31.3

  • Thu, Oct 9: South Plainfield 102.8, EB 98.575

    • EB AA: Wasserman 33.25, Cooperman 32.525, Levi 31.775

Parents’ brag line: “Clean landings today, big scores tomorrow.”


🏈 Football — “Keep Swinging”

Storyline: Piscataway’s a load. The scoreboard didn’t tell the story of fight on every snap and a sideline that never quit.

Result

  • Fri, Oct 10: Piscataway 35, EB 0

Parents’ brag line: “Culture first — the rest follows.”


📌 Quick-Hit “Results at a Glance”

  • Girls Tennis: W 4-1 JPS • W 5-0 Jackson (QF) • W 4-1 Montgomery (SF) • W 5-0 Monroe

  • Girls Soccer: W 6-0 Piscataway • W 4-0 South Brunswick • L 1-4 Marlboro

  • Field Hockey: W 2-1 South Plainfield • W 8-0 Piscataway

  • Boys Soccer: L 0-1 Woodbridge • W 2-0 Sayreville

  • Girls Volleyball: W 2-0 Woodbridge • L 0-2 Union Catholic

  • Gymnastics: L 94.875-100.225 Union Catholic • L 98.575-102.8 South Plainfield

  • Football: L 0-35 Piscataway


🐻 EB Parent Pride Corner

Post those photos, tag your player, and brag nicely — about effort, teamwork, and sportsmanship. This week had it all: hat tricks, four-goal heaters, straight-set sweeps, clutch fourth-quarter goals, and clean beam sets under pressure. That is East Brunswick.

Leadership Without the Legwork

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Leadership Without the Legwork

By Rob W.

Across East Brunswick, a new wave of residents in their thirties and early forties is stepping into community life. Many of them are talented, motivated, and genuinely want to make a difference. They bring creativity, energy, and a modern understanding of how to connect with others. This generation has the potential to carry East Brunswick forward in meaningful ways.

At the same time, a pattern has started to take shape. Some are skipping the parts of leadership that matter most. Instead of beginning with service, volunteering, and hands-on involvement, they are starting with social media platforms, websites, and public messaging. They are building their image before building their record.

A lot of this is not anyone’s fault in particular. It is largely a generational shift. Many people grew up in an environment where attention and visibility became normal measures of value. But if you catch yourself doing this, hopefully this piece offers some awareness of why you might not be getting the respect or credibility

I understand this approach. I get it. I do this for a living. The way people build attention has changed. For instance, to start a business, you once needed a product or service first and then worked to build an audience around it. That is no longer the only way. Today, people can build an audience first and then decide what to offer them. The same mindset has made its way into local leadership. People realize they can grow a following through social media, and once they have that audience, they can position themselves to run for something or step into a leadership role.

This pattern most often appears among those considering public office or exploring ways to become more visible in town politics. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to serve, but when the process starts with self-promotion instead of involvement, it creates a disconnect between intention and impact.

This mindset did not appear out of nowhere. Many in this age group grew up in a world where visibility equals value. They know how to market themselves, how to post, and how to stay in front of people’s attention. In many industries, that skill is an asset. In community life, though, it can be a trap.

When leadership becomes about attention instead of involvement, the community pays the price. The people who genuinely show up start to feel overlooked, and the work that holds the town together begins to lose value. Decisions start to favor visibility over substance, and that weakens trust in everyone trying to do things for the right reasons. Real progress requires people who stay committed even when no one is watching.

As someone who works in digital marketing and helps small business owners and entrepreneurs get their messages out, I understand how powerful these tools can be. A well-built platform can raise awareness, mobilize neighbors, and draw attention to local issues that deserve it. I believe in that power and use it every day in my work. But a digital presence should supplement genuine civic involvement, not replace it. When visibility becomes the goal instead of the result of meaningful work, authenticity is lost.

East Brunswick residents can tell the difference. People can read between the lines. They know when someone is involved for the right reasons and when it is about personal advancement and ego driven. Too often, the focus becomes forming alliances that serve mutual interests rather than community needs. These relationships are transactional rather than genuine, built to create leverage instead of impact.

What happens next is predictable. Popularity rises quickly and fades just as fast. When the actions behind the image are thin, the community eventually loses trust. Some individuals begin with the intention of making a difference, but their real goal surfaces over time: to gain recognition, to run for office, to climb from one position to the next. The foundation of service never solidifies, and without that foundation, their influence doesn’t last.

It is important to note that not everyone in this generation fits this description. There are many residents in this same age group who are putting in the work. They show up at events, volunteer quietly, and use social media not as a spotlight but as a tool to engage others. Their actions match their message, and because of that, people respect them. They are building trust the same way past generations did: through presence and consistency.

True leadership does not start with attention. It starts with participation. It is built in the moments no one sees, in the small acts that do not earn likes or comments. The most effective community leaders are those who show up first, stay late, and do not need to announce it.

East Brunswick’s future depends on people who are willing to do that kind of work. Digital tools can and should play a role in modern leadership, but they cannot be the foundation. The community does not need more personalities chasing recognition. It requires residents who care enough to build credibility the old-fashioned way, through effort, honesty, and service.

Eyes on EB will continue to highlight the people who do the work before seeking the title, the ones who build quietly and lead with purpose.

East Brunswick’s Own Vinya Chhabra Rocks The Voice — and the Community Can’t Stop Cheering

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When 14-year-old East Brunswick High School student Vinya Chhabra walked onto NBC’s The Voice stage and began singing Alanis Morissette’s “Ironic,” she didn’t just perform — she owned the moment. Within seconds, three judges’ chairs spun around, and the audience could feel something special happening. A young girl from East Brunswick had just set the national stage on fire.

Even the judges were stunned. Reba McEntire leaned in, whispering to Michael Bublé that she couldn’t believe such a young voice carried that much power. “I absolutely loved your voice and your attitude,” Reba said. “And I’d love to have you on my team.” Snoop Dogg called her “superstar quality” and said she had the spirit of rock. And Bublé — clearly impressed — admitted he was harmonizing with her mid-song.

After a quick chat with her parents and a kiss from her mom, Vinya made her choice — Team Reba. The country legend ran to the stage with a “Team Reba” sweatshirt in hand, grinning ear to ear. “Vinya really had great range, great tone,” Reba said afterward. “She’s one of those young contestants who really want to grow — and she chose me.”

East Brunswick Erupts with Pride

It didn’t take long for the news to make its way back home. On Facebook, the East Brunswick community erupted with excitement and pride.

C.M. started the thread that everyone began to share:

“Who is this 14-year-old young girl from East Brunswick that had a 3-chair turn on The Voice? Vinya Chhabra, you have an amazing voice and can’t wait to hear more from you.”

Within hours, comments flooded in.

C.K. chimed in:

“She was at EB Day too!”

J.M. added with nostalgia,

“WOW! That’s awesome! Still remember Jax on Idol. She did pretty well! And she writes pretty catchy songs now!”

And C.M. responded right back,

“Yes, I remember Jax also. Catch this young lady on Peacock or The Voice because she’s going to go far. I never vote but I’m going to start.”

From there, the thread turned into a community celebration.

P.D. wrote,

“Amazing voice!”

G.I. followed with,

“She’s a star ❤️ Wish her the best, always.”

N.M. called her,

“Such a talent!”

and S.K. linked to a YouTube video of her performing at East Brunswick’s 9/11 Candlelight Vigil, saying,

“When she finished that day, the only words that came out of my mouth were WOW.”

Even those who didn’t realize they’d seen her before were amazed. E.R. replied,

“Oh, I didn’t realize it was that girl. I was there.”

And T.P., remembering a school performance, added,

“I remember her in last year’s play 13. Amazing voice.”

By the time V.C., Vinya’s parent, stepped into the conversation to thank everyone for the love and support, the post had become a digital standing ovation for East Brunswick’s newest star.

More Than a Voice — A Message

Vinya’s story isn’t just about talent — it’s about purpose. Before her audition, she told producers, “There need to be more women in rock.” That’s exactly the kind of energy East Brunswick is rallying behind — bold, confident, and ready to break boundaries.

Vinya isn’t new to the spotlight, either. She’s been performing since age five, trained in classical music, and has played lead roles in local theater productions like Matilda Jr., Seussical Jr., and Sleepy Hollow. She’s also the lead singer with the School of Rock All Stars and can play guitar, piano, drums, bass, ukulele, and even cello.

In short, she’s the real deal — a multitalented musician who believes in her craft and wants to inspire others.

A Town That Believes

From the Candlelight Vigil stage to the national spotlight, East Brunswick has watched Vinya grow up through music. And now, seeing her light up The Voice stage has given the entire town something to root for.

“She’s my kind of girl,” C.M. wrote. “She wants to be the lead singer in a rock band.”

That hometown pride is electric — and contagious.

As one commenter said perfectly,

“Only 14 and an incredible voice. Best of luck!”

East Brunswick isn’t just cheering from the sidelines — it’s standing behind her.

So whether you’ve seen her at a local show, a school play, or just discovered her on national TV, one thing’s for sure: Vinya Chhabra is the voice of East Brunswick — and she’s only getting started.

Catch her next performance on The Voice every Monday and Tuesday night on NBC, or stream it the next day on Peacock. And if you haven’t already — trust us — you’ll want to hit replay.

East Brunswick Weekend Sports Recap: Big wins, hard lessons, and a lot of grit

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Some weekends tell you everything about a program’s heartbeat. This one had it all for East Brunswick—clean sweeps, highlight-reel bursts, marathon efforts that ended in deadlock, and a couple of results that will sting just enough to sharpen the next practice. From Monday through Saturday, EB teams stacked minutes, played for each other, and showed the kind of resilience that tends to matter when the weather turns cold and the brackets come out.

Girls Tennis: A sweep, then a street fight

On Monday, Sept. 29, the Bears walked into Woodbridge Magnet with businesslike focus and walked out with a perfect 5–0. Stacy Arkhipova set the tone at first singles, moving the ball corner to corner and closing 6–3, 6–4. Behind her, Arya Joshi’s pace was too much in a 6–2, 6–1 win, and Kellyanne Mossi slammed the door 6–0, 6–0. The doubles pairs were crisp and ruthless: Andrea Baraian with Kelsey Zhao 6–1, 6–0, and Aria Kapadia with Kaylynn Mossi 6–2, 6–1. It looked like a team peaking.

Two days later at South Brunswick, it turned into a backyard brawl between rivals. EB’s second singles rock, Kellyanne Mossi, blanked her opponent 6–0, 6–0, and the first-doubles duo of Kaitlin Wang and Prisha Patel answered every run with cooler hands at the net to win 6–2, 6–4. South Brunswick found two singles points and second doubles to edge it 3–2, but this felt less like a setback and more like a bookmark—one these teams may revisit when the stakes are bigger.

Girls Soccer: Floodgates open, then a reality check

Tuesday at JP Stevens started like a thunderclap. Thirty-seven seconds in, Valeria Fernandes buried the opener off a feed from Jacqueline Goldovsky, and EB never stepped off the gas. Goldovsky authored a conductor’s performance—two goals and an assist—while Samantha Baker threaded passes all over the park, finishing with a goal and two helpers. Add tallies from Zoey Aleixo, Madeline Docherty, and Lauren Baker, and EB bagged seven with 21 shots on frame to win 7–1. It was joyful, quick-touch soccer.

Saturday against Monroe was the other side of the sport’s coin. Monroe’s Avery Grossman found seams where none seemed to exist and finished four times, including a first-half hat trick. EB put eight shots on goal and kept probing, but the final ball never quite landed in the spots it did midweek. Call it a measuring-stick morning. The good news: EB has already shown how it responds—by scoring in waves and playing brave.

Boys Soccer: Late surge one night, tight margins the next

Metuchen on Tuesday was a “don’t blink” second half. After a scoreless opening 40, EB punched three in the final period—Giovanny Sousa, Sebastian Vargas, and Andrew Lima—each fed by a different teammate (Sean Li, Lucas Henriques, and Luke Negron). Ten shots on target to eight told the story of pressure applied until the wall cracked, a 3–1 win earned the hard way.

Four days later at Monroe’s showcase, Robbinsville nicked one in each half and managed the tempo just enough to keep EB chasing. The Bears generated six shots on goal and kept the ball in dangerous areas late, but it finished 2–0. These are the nights that tighten a spine. The chances were there; the finishing touch is coming.

Field Hockey: A gut-check draw, then a lesson in volume

Wednesday’s trip to Westfield was all toughness and poise. Down 1–0 at half, EB answered in the third through Arianna DeMaio, then traded fourth-quarter punches—Julia Rose equalized after Westfield briefly went ahead—before overtime solved nothing in a 2–2 draw. The telling stat lived at the endline: EB earned 15 corners to Westfield’s 8 and out-shot them on goal 13–7. That’s a team imposing itself.

Saturday against Montclair was a different rhythm. The Mounties poured in chances, and goalkeeper Ella Balsamo turned away 19 shots while Rachel Gerould broke through for EB. Montclair’s finishing was clinical in an 8–1 final, but there’s value in facing that kind of pace now. Corners, outlets, and first touches get sharper after mornings like this.

Football: Trading blows until the fourth

Friday night under the lights, Hunterdon Central struck first on a 25-yard toss and then found a back-breaking 41-yard connection out of halftime. EB answered with its best stretch in the third, but a fourth-quarter pick-six flipped the field and the momentum, and HC closed it out 28–7. The tape will show sections of complementary football and long spells of defensive effort that kept things within reach. Clean up a couple of explosive plays and it looks different.

Girls Volleyball: Two matches, plenty of fight

Saturday’s tri-style slate was a test of resilience. Against Madison, EB split the first two sets—21–25 in the second after pushing 20–25 in the opener—before Madison’s attack leaned on Sophia Christoffers (15 kills) to take the third, 25–17. Rolling straight into Pinelands, EB hung point-for-point in both sets (20–25, 21–25) before the Wildcats closed the door with tough serving and steady back-row play. The margins were thin, the improvements obvious.


What it all means

This week read like a season in miniature. Tennis proved it can sweep and scrap. Girls soccer flashed firepower and got a reminder about the details that win October games. Boys soccer showed its second-half bite. Field hockey owned the circle midweek and swallowed a hard lesson on Saturday that will pay off in GMC play. Football found stretches to build on. Volleyball kept swinging in two tight sets against a powerhouse program.

The scoreboard matters, but the through-line is clearer: EB teams are building habits that travel—pace, pressure, and the willingness to respond. That’s what lasts when the lights get brighter.

This is Our Fight Song: A Love Letter to Strength, Survival, and the Gift of Time

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This is Our Fight Song: A Love Letter to Strength, Survival, and the Gift of Time

Exactly ten years ago, I was in the middle of my own breast cancer journey. At the time, I was a single mother with three-year-old twins—my whole world wrapped up in those two tiny bodies—when I heard the words no one ever wants to hear: You have cancer.

At first, it seemed manageable. A lumpectomy and radiation, they told me. Easy, right? Not….so…. fast….. After surgery, the plan shifted. Suddenly, I was facing chemotherapy, another surgery, radiation, and ultimately a year of my life that would strip away my naïveté and permanently change the way I view time, love, strength and resilience. 

It was not just a medical journey—it was a human one.

The Village I Didn’t Expect

Cancer taught me lessons of epic proportions, especially about family and friendship. Some people I thought would stand firmly by my side quietly stepped away. And others—the unexpected ones—showed up with strength, compassion, and loyalty I could never have predicted. Those who stepped forward are etched into my life and heart forever.  Those who didn’t step up—it stung at first, but in time I realized it was a powerful lesson and one I did not take personally. That hurt became one of the greatest teachers, shaping me in ways that continue to help me today. For some people, cancer is unbearable to talk about—it forces them to confront their own mortality, and that fear can be paralyzing. It takes me back to the scene in St. Elmo’s Fire where the family sits around the dinner table and the word cancer is spoken in a hushed whisper, as if it were a curse.  

The Caregivers

We don’t talk enough about caregivers. Everyone focuses on the patient, but the truth is, caregivers carry a weight that is just as heavy. My family—my fiercest protectors—made survival possible. They carried me when I couldn’t carry myself. They don’t get nearly enough credit. If you know someone caring for a loved one with cancer, please, check in on them. They need as much support as the patient.

The Doctors & Nurses

To the doctors, all doctors, but my amazing team in particular: thank you for your knowledge, your steady hands, and your tireless pursuit of healing. You make decisions every day that balance science and compassion, and in doing so, you give patients like me another chance at life.

To the nurses: Nurses are a special breed, but oncology nurses are a gift beyond measure. You are the quiet heroes who often go unnoticed. You are the ones who held my hand when fear took over, who spoke gently when I needed reassurance, who allowed me my quiet time on those long Saturdays by myself, with my coloring book and my IPad. You didn’t just treat my body—you cared for my spirit. You reminded me that I wasn’t just a diagnosis, I was a person worth fighting for.

Life After “No Evidence of Disease”

There is a phrase survivors know well: NED—No Evidence of Disease. On paper, that’s the best outcome you can hope for. But cancer never really leaves. It lingers in the quiet corners of your mind. It creeps up in the most inopportune moments—a routine doctor’s visit, an unexplained ache, an anniversary date—and suddenly you’re back in that chair, waiting for results, holding your breath. Some call it PTSD. I just call it part of survivorship.

But cancer also gave me something unexpected: a suit of armor.

The Armor and the Perspective

When you face your own mortality head on, you learn quickly what is worth your energy and what isn’t. Petty people and arguments, trivial stressors, wasted time—they no longer hold power. What does matter becomes crystal clear: love, laughter, kindness, presence and most importantly, FAMILY.

Time is the greatest equalizer. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, what your background is, the color of your skin, who you love, or who you pray to. Time waits for no one. And cancer doesn’t discriminate. 

For the Angels and the Fighters Yet to Come

This love letter would not be complete without remembering those we’ve lost along the way—the moms who won’t get to see their children grow up, the friends who fought valiantly not just for themselves but for others, and who now fight from above as angels watching over us. Their courage continues to light our path.

And to those who will face this fight in the future: know that you are not alone. Although this is a club no one chooses to join, it is a club that welcomes with arms wide open. There is room here for everyone to show up as they are, to take what they need, and to give back when and how they can. The strength of this community is immeasurable.

The Soundtrack of Survival

Ten years ago, as I was moving through this journey, a song was released into the world—Rachel Platten’s Fight Song. It became my anthem. I played it on repeat, letting its lyrics propel me forward when my body was tired and my spirit felt heavy. That song gave me strength I didn’t know I had. And now, as it is being re-released, I can’t help but feel the full circle moment—because it reminds me of the resilience I built, the people who carried me, and the truth that we all have more fight in us than we realize.

This Love Letter

So today, this love letter is to the survivors, the fighters, the caregivers, and the angels. Every moment is a gift. Every breath is borrowed time. Let’s use it wisely. Let’s honor it fiercely.

And let’s never forget that in the face of fragility, love and human connection remain the strongest medicines of all.

💗 A Call to Action for Breast Cancer Awareness Month
This October, let’s turn awareness into action. Schedule your mammogram. Remind a friend to schedule theirs. Check in on a caregiver. Wear pink not just as a symbol, but as a promise—to keep fighting for research, support, and early detection.

And when you hear Fight Song again, let it be a reminder: you are not alone, your fight matters, and together, we are stronger than cancer.

The Trucks of Sunburst: A Neighborhood’s Breaking Point

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If you live on Sunburst Drive, you don’t need a clock to tell you the time. The roar of tractor trailers barreling down the street does that for you. Sometimes it’s 5:06 in the morning, sometimes it’s just after midnight, sometimes it’s every 20 minutes through the night. For residents, it has become the soundtrack of their lives — and they’ve had enough.

For months, neighbors have been writing to the mayor, town council, and township administrator Joseph Criscuolo, pleading for help. Their emails are raw, sometimes written in the middle of the night after being jolted awake by air brakes and diesel engines.

One message sent at dawn begins simply:

“Good early morning. Please advise as to why there are tractor trailers thundering by on Sunburst Drive disturbing the peace at 5:06 AM and what the town is doing to stop this. We have really had enough of these reckless trucks now.”

Another lists times — 9:27, 9:59, 10:36, 11:44, 11:57 — each one a reminder of another truck screaming past. Residents attach photos. They name the companies: Salson Logistics, Landstar, Talay Trailer, Lazy Tigers. The pattern is the same: the trucks are heavy, they are loud, they are speeding, and they are supposed to be nowhere near this street. The posted weight limit is 4 tons.

Years of Complaints, Little Relief

The frustration has grown into anger.

  • “What do taxes pay for???”

  • “Years of complaints, nothing done!!!”

  • “Someone is going to get killed!!!”

Some residents no longer write just about trucks — they write about leadership. Their subject lines and sign-offs now call for firing officials and even impeaching the mayor. It is the language of a community that feels ignored.

The Township’s Response

On the other side, Township Administrator Joseph Criscuolo has been clear: enforcement is up to the police.

“The Police Department is the proper authority to enforce speeding and weight limit and other violations. The mayor nor township council can write summons,” Criscuolo wrote in one reply.

He pointed to East Brunswick Police Chief Frank LoSacco, who he says has repeatedly offered to meet with residents from Sunburst, though few have taken him up on it.

A Neighborhood vs. the Noise

What these emails reveal is more than a fight about trucks. They capture the exhaustion of a neighborhood that feels forgotten. It’s not just noise and rattling windows. It’s the belief that no matter how many reports they file, how many photos they send, or how many times they say “enough is enough,” nothing changes. Some believe that the reason why they are ignored because they aren’t on the “rich” side of town.

Every night, the trucks return. Every morning, another email gets fired off.

And so the question lingers in inboxes across East Brunswick: How many more trucks have to thunder down Sunburst before something finally gives?