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EB Drivers Warned: Police Out in Force, Wreckless Spelling at All-Time High

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East Brunswick motorists had a collective case of whiplash this week — not from sudden stops, but from trying to keep up with a Facebook thread about increased EBPD traffic enforcement.

The drama began when M.D. posted a simple PSA:

“EBPD activity is high this week. They are pulling over anyone every chance they get.”

Within minutes, comment notifications were popping up faster than radar guns on Ryders Lane. Some residents applauded the crackdown.

“AMEN, DRIVERS ARE ENTTIELD AND POLICE ARE DOING THEIR JOB… HIT THEM WHERE IT HURTS, IN THEIR POCKETS!!” said L.H., apparently in ALL CAPS to make sure the message reached every speeding soul.

Others offered linguistic analysis rather than legal advice.

“Well I find it encouraging that they are Wreckless. It could be worse, we could have wrecks!” joked G.B., earning a flurry of laughing emojis — and possibly a grammar citation.

Not to be outdone, S.D. chimed in, seconding G.B.’s crusade against the slow left-lane crowd:

“This is a giant and increasing problem.”

Apparently, nothing unites EB drivers like a common enemy: people who treat the passing lane as a cozy lounge.

Then the thread veered off-road. One commenter suggested officers should focus on “homeless vagrants along 18,” prompting C.T. to calmly point out that being unhoused isn’t actually illegal. (Eyes on EB tip: arguing constitutional law while merging is not recommended.)

By mid-afternoon, the conversation had spiraled into conspiracy theories about ticket quotas, clean-shoe surveillance of panhandlers, and loud street racers in the AutoZone plaza.

“Guess they didn’t meet their ticket quotas for the month,” speculated K.N.
“I got pulled over in the high school parking lot,” added R.E., turning nostalgia for driver’s ed into breaking news.


What’s Really Going On

According to a quick chat with an EBPD spokesperson (and some light observation of flashing lights near Tices Lane), officers are running a standard traffic safety initiative — think seatbelt reminders, cell phone checks, and a polite “slow down” for the 38% of drivers who treat 45 mph as a suggestion.

Even G.B., who launched the spelling joke, had a practical suggestion for the department:

“They should also be pulling over the left-lane vigilantes that go slow in the passing lane.”

We hear you, Geo. Nothing ruins a good cruise like an impromptu Sunday drive in the fast lane.


Eyes on EB Take

Whether you’re pro-ticket or pro-freedom-to-roll-through-a-stop, one thing is clear: Facebook threads about speed traps are the new town square. Keep your blinker on, your grammar tight, and your foot light on the gas.

Drive safe, EB — or at least make sure your quotes about it are as entertaining as this week’s.

Beyond the Diploma: The Forgotten Futures

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By Rachel B

Beyond the Diploma:  The Forgotten Futures

Imagine watching your child walk across the stage at 21—diploma in hand, family cheering in the crowd. For many graduates, this moment signals a world of opportunity. But for too many adults with autism and cognitive impairments, it marks something different: the quiet closing of doors. Graduation isn’t a beginning… it’s often the start of being left behind. No more school. No more daily routine. No visible support. No clear path forward.

For families raising children with autism and other cognitive challenges, school becomes the anchor. It provides familiarity, structure, therapies, and services that foster growth academically, socially, and personally. Until 21, students have access to a system that sustains them. Then comes the looming question: What happens next?

Too often, the answer is simple and heartbreaking—not enough.

A Story of Advocacy and Resilience

This week I had the joy of reconnecting with Dara Valiant, the mom of a student I worked with nearly 25 years ago as his speech therapist. My relationship with Dara, her husband Gino, their son Genare, and their extended family went far beyond therapist and student—it was a bond that outlasted my years in that school.

Over dinner, we reminisced about their journey: the battles fought, the victories hard-won, and the challenges they learned to live with. As I listened to where Genare’s path had taken him, I was reminded of something I had always known but now felt even more deeply. Genare is lucky. From the earliest moments of uncertainty, Dara and Gino mobilized. They researched, educated themselves, advocated fiercely, and built a community around their son. Their determination carved out opportunities for Genare to thrive, to grow, and to live a life filled with purpose.

Every child should be this fortunate.

A Shared Struggle

Recently, Eyes on EB/Voices of EB met another local family navigating similar challenges. Audrey Weiner and her daughter Diana have walked the long road of special education since Diana’s birth. Like Dara, Audrey fought tirelessly to create a safe, inclusive path through the school years. But as with so many families, graduation marked a steep drop-off in opportunities.

After 21, young adults who cannot live or work fully independently are left in limbo. Programs are scarce. Resources are fragmented. Parents scramble to find options, often piecing together information from inconsistent sources. Families who spent years advocating suddenly face uncharted waters with no map to guide them.

A Broader Perspective

After three decades in special education—as a teacher, parent, and advocate—I’ve had a front-row seat to these realities. Some experiences have challenged me, some have inspired me, and many remain unforgettable. This conversation with Dara reminded me again: this isn’t just a logistical problem—it’s an emotional one.

Parents carry the weight of worry for their child’s future. Young adults feel the loss of purpose and belonging that school once provided. And communities lose out on the gifts, talents, and perspectives these individuals offer when they’re not given a space to contribute.

This isn’t about lack of ability—it’s about lack of opportunity.

Moving Forward

We need more than hope. We need better planning, more programs, stronger advocacy, and true community partnerships. Families deserve centralized resources, practical options for employment and engagement, and reassurance that their children will not be forgotten after their 21st birthday.

Let this be the beginning of that conversation. Together, we can share resources, highlight success stories, and push for change. Because every individual deserves not just a place in school—but a meaningful place in life.

 

When the Kids Become the Adults

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By Rob W.

There are moments when you sit back, observe, and realize the script has flipped. That moment hit me recently while filming a group of high school girls speaking about an initiative they started to help make East Brunswick a better place. Their words were thoughtful. Their presence was calm. Their energy was hopeful. As I stood behind the camera, I could not shake the feeling that these girls were acting more like the adults in the room than most adults.

Before the interview, I had done what many of us do. I scrolled through social media. Comment after comment filled with negativity, blame, and rage. Most of it coming from people who have never volunteered a day in their lives or contributed anything meaningful to the town they claim to care about. The irony was heavy. The loudest voices in the room often belong to those doing the least.

And yet, here were these girls. Not just talking, but doing. Not just complaining, but creating. Not tearing others down, but building something up.

It makes you pause. It makes you wonder when so many adults lost their way. At what point did ego and anger replace purpose and progress? When did tearing others down become more more of a dopamine rush for some than lifting people up?

Eyes on EB is about stories like this. It is about seeing the good that still exists and giving it a platform. These girls deserve to be heard, not just because they are young, but because they are setting an example many adults would do well to follow.

Maybe it is time we stopped asking what is wrong with the next generation and started asking what happened to ours.

East Brunswick Bears Weekly Sports Recap

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The East Brunswick Bears had a busy start to the fall season, with action across tennis, football, field hockey, volleyball, and soccer. From tight overtime finishes to dominant shutouts, each team showed grit and early-season potential. Highlights included girls tennis staying unbeaten, girls soccer pulling out a late winner, and boys soccer celebrating an overtime victory against Old Bridge. While some teams came up just short, it’s clear the Bears are competing hard across the board. This roundup covers all the results from late August through the first week of September.

East Brunswick Bears Game Recaps

Girls Tennis vs Holmdel • Thu, Aug 28, 2025

East Brunswick 3, Holmdel 2
Bears move to 2–0 after a tight win. Singles were the difference with Arya Joshi and Kaitlin Wang cruising in straight sets and Stacy Arkhipova battling at first singles. Second doubles went to EB in a super tiebreak. Record: EB 2–0 overall, 2–0 GMC Red.

  • 1st Singles: Holmdel def. Arkhipova 6–3, 6–4

  • 2nd Singles: Joshi def. Piscatelli 6–2, 6–1

  • 3rd Singles: Wang def. Dekhtyarev 6–0, 6–2

  • 1st Doubles: Holmdel def. Mossi/Patel 6–4, 2–6, 10–7

  • 2nd Doubles: K. Mossi/Zhao def. Gork/Shekoff 6–4, 4–6, 10–8


Football vs South Plainfield • Thu, Aug 28, 2025

South Plainfield 9, East Brunswick 7
A fourth-quarter TD run by QB Sean Christie pulled EB within two, but a first-half safety and a 76-yard punt return stood up for SP. Christie led EB with 142 passing yards and 78 rushing yards. Record: EB 0–1.

  • Passing leader: Sean Christie 10–25, 142 yards

  • Rushing leader: Sean Christie 13–78, 1 TD

  • Receiving leader: Noah DeJesus 4–76


Field Hockey at Monroe • Tue, Sept 2, 2025

East Brunswick 8, Monroe 0
Statement win on the road. Rachel Gerould netted a hat trick. Molly Blatties scored twice. Anuoluwa Oladeji added two. Alexa DeRado dished three assists. Record: EB 1–1 overall, 1–1 GMC Red.

  • Shots on goal: EB 23, Monroe 2

  • Goalies: Ella Balsamo and Reagan Umbach combined for the shutout


Girls Volleyball vs Colonia • Tue, Sept 2, 2025

Colonia 2, East Brunswick 1
EB took the first set 25–18 before Colonia rallied. Smitha Srinivasan paced the Bears with 9 kills and 3 aces. Zoe Holeman had 12 assists. Record: EB 0–3, 0–3 GMC Red.

  • Set scores: 25–18, 18–25, 23–25


Boys Soccer vs Toms River East • Tue, Sept 2, 2025

Toms River East 4, East Brunswick 3 (OT)
A back-and-forth match decided in extra time. EB goals from Ben Lyons, Sean Li, and Panav Patel. Keeper Aiden Hanas made 6 saves. Record: EB 1–2.


Field Hockey vs Old Bridge • Thu, Sept 4, 2025

Old Bridge 2, East Brunswick 1 (OT)
Rachel Gerould put EB ahead late in the second quarter off an Oladeji assist. Old Bridge equalized in the third and won it in overtime. Ella Balsamo made 4 saves. Record: EB 1–2 overall, 1–1 GMC Red.


Girls Tennis vs J.P. Stevens • Thu, Sept 4, 2025

East Brunswick 4, J.P. Stevens 1
Bears sweep all three singles in straight sets and take first doubles. JPS claimed second doubles in a tiebreak set. Record: EB 3–0, 3–0 GMC Red.

  • 1st Singles: Arkhipova def. Chandra 6–3, 6–4

  • 2nd Singles: Joshi def. Sule 6–0, 6–0

  • 3rd Singles: K. Mossi def. Chitnis 6–0, 6–0

  • 1st Doubles: Wang/Patel def. Pemmaraju/Rajaraman 6–3, 6–1

  • 2nd Doubles: JPS def. K. Mossi/Zhao 7–6, 7–6


Girls Volleyball at Old Bridge • Thu, Sept 4, 2025

Old Bridge 2, East Brunswick 0
Old Bridge controlled both sets. EB battled on defense but could not find a late run. Record: EB 0–4, 0–4 GMC Red.

  • Set scores: 18–25, 11–25


Boys Soccer vs Old Bridge • Thu, Sept 4, 2025

East Brunswick 2, Old Bridge 1 (OT)
Ben Lyons delivered the golden goal in overtime. Giovanny Sousa scored in regulation. Justin Morrissey made 5 saves for OB, while EB closed it out in extra time. Record: EB 2–2.


Girls Soccer vs Sayreville • Sat, Sept 6, 2025

East Brunswick 2, Sayreville 1
Jacqueline Goldovsky was clutch with both goals, including the winner in the 78th minute. Samantha Baker assisted on both. Keeper Caylin Docherty made 4 saves. Record: EB 1–1, 1–1 GMC Red.


Boys Soccer at North Brunswick • Sat, Sept 6, 2025

North Brunswick 2, East Brunswick 0
A scoreless first half gave way to two Raiders goals after the break. EB could not find the equalizer. Record: EB 2–3.

Why Can’t Brunswick Square Be Like Freehold?

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A Question That Hit Home in East Brunswick Helping Each Other

In the East Brunswick Helping Each Other group, one resident sparked a passionate discussion with a simple observation. After sharing an article about Freehold Raceway Mall’s latest round of expansions, she wrote:

“It is sad our mall can not do things like Freehold and Menlo are doing to expand it.”

That comment set off a wave of replies from neighbors who were quick to agree, disagree, or share their own vision for what Brunswick Square could be.

“Malls Are Dead” — Or Are They?

Some in the group brushed off the idea, saying the days of indoor malls are simply over.

“Nobody goes to the mall anymore. That is the key. Plain and simple.”

But others pushed back, pointing out that Menlo Park Mall and Freehold Raceway Mall still attract steady crowds:

“Nobody goes to Brunswick Square Mall because there is nothing there to attract people. My daughter works in Menlo Park Mall and it is always busy.”

The frustration wasn’t just about shopping. It was about vision. Many residents noted that Brunswick Square has been neglected for decades, while other malls have invested in reinventing themselves.

A Community Overflowing With Ideas

What stood out most in the thread were the creative suggestions for what the mall could become.

Some neighbors imagined transforming the property into something beyond retail:

“I prefer another park, a playground, a community center with a fresh market. A place for summer concerts. Local vendors.”

Others wanted to see East Brunswick finally land the kinds of stores and restaurants that draw people to Freehold and Menlo:

“Wish they’d get Nordstrom Rack & a great grocery store like Wegmans or Trader Joe’s.”

And one resident put it simply:

“East Brunswick mall can be even more unique because it’s smaller and in the middle of large malls. Need creative people to survive.”

Apartments, Developers, and Frustration

Of course, no East Brunswick development conversation is complete without concerns about overbuilding. Several commenters worried that instead of becoming a community hub, the mall would just become another giant apartment complex.

“Our town has turned into ‘New Brunswick South.’”

Others pointed to state housing mandates and tax abatements, questioning whether decision-makers really had the community’s best interests in mind.

Why This Matters

The frustration behind the original post is one many share: why does it feel like surrounding towns are moving forward while East Brunswick stays stuck? Freehold Raceway Mall’s new entertainment, dining, and retail mix shows what can happen when a property is reimagined for today’s world.

Brunswick Square doesn’t need to be Freehold. But it does need a vision—one that reflects what East Brunswick residents want and need, not just what developers find profitable.

The thread in East Brunswick Helping Each Other proved one thing: the community is ready with ideas. The question now is, will anyone in power listen?

A Community Conversation on Compassion

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A Community Conversation on Compassion

Neighbors Share Resources and Leads

In East Brunswick and our surrounding towns, conversations about homelessness and need often bring out the best in people. Recently, a local thread showed just how many residents are willing to step up with job leads, resources, and even a kind word.

Neighbors pointed to organizations like Dress for Success, the Puerto Rican Action Board, Women Aware, and the Salvation Army. Others shared practical tips — places hiring, help with applications, or the reality that an address is often required before a job can even be considered. The compassion was clear, with some residents even offering to personally help with applications or provide food, clothing, and basic supplies.

Stories of Everyday Kindness

One story that stood out was about a man often seen near Route 18. Several community members shared how they’ve gotten to know him over time, even storing his winter clothes so he wouldn’t have to carry them and bringing him peanut butter because they knew it would make him smile. These acts of kindness remind us that small gestures can mean everything when someone is struggling.

When Voices Turn Insensitive

But not all voices in the thread reflected empathy. A few people were quick to dismiss those in need as part of some “organized effort,” questioning their legitimacy instead of recognizing their humanity. Others shouted for people to “just get a job,” ignoring the obvious barriers like not having an address, transportation, or stable housing.

One resident said it best when they called out that insensitivity — how can you fill out a job application when line two asks for an address you don’t have?

Kindness Should Always Be the Standard

The truth is, compassion doesn’t cost anything. As one neighbor pointed out, we’re quick to rally for stray dogs and cats, yet sometimes cruel to our own. If we can extend that same patience, understanding, and generosity to people, our community becomes stronger.

This thread wasn’t perfect, but it showed something important: when many come together, real solutions and real care can emerge. And when someone acts insensitive, it’s on us to speak up and remind them — kindness should always be the standard.

Eagle’s Landing Launches Eagle Foundation Fundraiser to Send More Kids to Camp

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When you think of summer around East Brunswick, camp is one of those experiences that stays with you for a lifetime. For the past 13 years, Ruth Ann, Barry, and their wonderful team have poured their hearts into Eagle’s Landing Day Camp. Beyond the ropes courses, zip lines, and campfires, their vision has always been about inclusivity, giving every child a place to belong.

Now, that vision has taken a big step forward with the creation of the Eagle Foundation, a registered 501(c)(3) nonprofit. Its mission is simple but powerful: to provide camp scholarships so that children from families facing financial hardship can experience the joy and growth that only summer camp can bring. Unlike many organizations, 100 percent of donations go directly toward helping kids, thanks to volunteers and the foundation’s no-overhead approach.

A Camp Day for Adults

To kick off fundraising efforts, Eagle’s Landing is hosting a special adults-only fundraiser on Saturday, September 27th, from 3–7 PM. For just $30, attendees 21 and older will have the chance to relive their camp days and enjoy all the fun the kids rave about every summer.

Picture this: volleyball courts, basketball, mini golf, ping pong, archery, hatchet throwing, a 400-foot zip line, and even beer pong (with water, of course). Add to that a full beer garden, delicious camp-style food including burgers, hot dogs, vegetarian options, and empanadas. It’s camp reimagined for adults—a chance to unplug, laugh, and feel like a kid again, all while raising money for a cause that directly impacts local families.

A Commitment to Inclusion

Eagle’s Landing has long been known for its inclusive approach. The camp runs a successful program for children with special needs who may not thrive in either fully mainstream or fully specialized settings. These campers get the support they need to socialize, try new activities, and, most importantly, make real friendships that carry over into the school year.

Yet many families shoulder extra costs, like paying out-of-pocket for one-on-one aides, on top of regular tuition. The Eagle Foundation hopes to ease this burden as it grows, ensuring camp is accessible not just financially, but socially, for every child.

Looking Ahead

The fundraiser is only the beginning. Long term, Ruthanne and her team envision expanding the foundation’s reach—even dreaming of building a dedicated special needs camp on an adjacent property. With community support, sponsorships, and grant funding, the Eagle Foundation plans to create even more opportunities for children who deserve a place to belong.

How You Can Help

If you love kids, believe in inclusivity, or simply want to see more children experience the magic of camp, this is your chance. Attend the fundraiser on September 27th, spread the word, or become a sponsor. Sponsorship opportunities range from $500 to $5,000, with every dollar going toward scholarships and programs that change lives.

Camp is more than games and swimming pools. It’s friendship, growth, confidence, and joy. With the Eagle Foundation, Eagle’s Landing is making sure more children in our community get that chance—regardless of financial barriers.

Join in. Give back. Be a part of something that lasts far beyond summer. Contact them today to donate! 

 

A Love Letter to Educators

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If you’ve ever visited the Lakeshore Learning Store during the last few weeks before the start of the school year, you’ve gotten a very tiny glimpse into the world of an educator. Bulletin board decorations and classroom themes being chosen, fresh hall passes being purchased, and the never-ending line to laminate our prized posters so we can use them for at least a full year. And then…the inevitable “Sunday Scaries” that so many of us experience—no matter what day of the week the first day of school falls on!

There’s a certain electricity in the air on the first day of school—the hum of sharpened pencils, the shuffle of new shoes, shiny new backpacks, and the hopeful yet nervous smiles lining the hallways. For almost three decades, I have had countless mornings like this, welcoming wave after wave of students whose names and stories I carry with me long after the year ends. And still, after nearly thirty years of teaching, my heart races with the same anticipation I felt as a brand-new teacher.

This love letter is for you, my fellow educators. For those rising early to decorate those freshly laminated bulletin boards. For those spending late nights reworking lessons. For those carrying not only the curriculum but also the lives and dreams of the young people entrusted to us. For those who will miss their own child’s first day of school because they are readying their classrooms to receive someone else’s children. Teaching is not just a profession; it is a promise—one we renew every fall when the school doors swing open again.

So, as another school year begins, I write to honor your perseverance, your creativity, and your unwavering belief in children. As I have said many times, teaching is a team sport! The only way to succeed in this field is to lean on each other when the deck seems stacked against us. May this letter remind you that you are seen, you are valued, and you are never alone in this work.

With that teamwork mentality in mind, I reached out to some of the unbelievably gifted educators I have been privileged to know over my storied career. I asked them to share their words of wisdom with us as we embark on this journey once again. I wish I had room to share more, but if even one thought below sparks a moment of clarity or comfort for you, then these words have done their work:

“Stay Positive! Even when you don’t think you are making an impact, YOU ARE!” – C.B.

“Let’s have a great year! Time to mold young minds!” – A.S.

“Children can feel your authenticity. Be your authentic self. Don’t be afraid to be amazed by your students. Every person brings something unique and different to the classroom—learn from it all!” – T.M.

“Be adaptable. This job will throw you a dozen curveballs at once, so you have to match the environment you’re put in. Also, give kids who struggle, a chance to fix their mistakes and get credit back.” – D.F.

“Don’t let the first day be a projection of how your year will go. EVERYONE has the first day jitters—from the most seasoned teachers to the brand-new ones!” – A.A.

“The thing to keep in mind is that these kids’ futures depend on how good of a teacher you are. That is a heavy responsibility that we carry.” – C.O.

“Make sure that you begin the school year with good classroom management skills! It doesn’t matter how much you know if you can’t control your class. Always start out tougher—you can always ease up! And remember that teaching is the only profession that touches a life forever!” – A.B.

“There’s no one like you—true superheroes!!” – M.B.

“Breathe. It’s okay to smile. Kids remember your connection, not your perfection.” – J.L.

“Always stay connected to your ‘why.’ We hold a unique opportunity that no one else in the world has—to shape, guide, and build someone’s future. That is an incredible responsibility. Approach it with kindness and gentleness, because you may very well become the reason behind somebody else’s why!” – K.B.

“The impact you have on your students’ feelings will outweigh the importance of any subject you teach!” – L.G.

“Never underestimate how much you mean to your students. Sadly, sometimes you are the only positive in their life.” – T.H.

“Pour as much time as you can into relationship-building, but set the expectations high and hold them.” – D.K.

“During your career you will hear some variation of the following statement: ‘Always remember your WHY’ or ‘focus on the WHY.’ While that statement can speak volumes about your journey as an educator, I encourage you to place equal weight on remembering your ‘HOW.’ How you treat your students, families, and colleagues will leave a lasting impression and will contribute to the legacy of your favorite teacher. Yes—the teacher that made YOU want to become a teacher mastered the ‘HOW,’ which is why you’re here today.” – W.D.

“There are teachable moments at every turn, don’t blink or you’ll miss them.” – R.B.

“Do not prejudge any students – if you taught their siblings & have an opinion, remember everyone is different & should be given a chance to prove themselves each & every day. If another teacher has something to say about a student in your class, remember each relationship between teacher & student is different. You will have a totally different student/teacher relationship. Every day is a new day with new possibilities. Move on from what may have happened yesterday and start new.” – A.W

That last piece of advice is from MY mentor, “My Alexis” as I like to call her, who 23 years ago, welcomed me into OUR classroom with open arms and an open mind!  She showed me immediately what teamwork looked like! Aside from my mother, also a lifelong educator, Alexis has been the most influential educator in my life. She was such an integral part of creating the inclusive, open-minded, innovative, risk-taking, out-of-the-box thinking educator that I am today, because that is the educator she always was! She was patient with me, she respected my opinion, and she gave me an equal voice in a world where special educators don’t often find that. Together, we created a magical safe space for our students to thrive and grow and be the amazing human beings that we knew they were capable of being! And oh how they did! We even had the test scores to prove it! That class left an indelible mark on my life, I’m still connected with some of those students, even 23 years later! And Alexis, MY Alexis, she still remains as much a touchstone through all the journeys in my life today as she was that first day. Teamwork truly makes the dream work! 

One final message to those who guide and inspire in the classroom, as we begin to fill the pages of this new school year, remember that the story we write together matters more than any single test score or lesson plan. It will be a story of persistence, compassion, and of lighting sparks that may burn long after our students leave our classrooms. After nearly thirty years, one thing is certain, the love you pour into your work has a ripple effect far greater than you will ever know.

So take a deep breath, smile at those eager faces, and walk into this year knowing that with every patient smile, every welcoming word, you ARE making a difference. This is my love letter to you, the educators who show up, again and again, with open hearts and steady hands. May your year be filled with small victories, deep connections, and the quiet joy of knowing you are exactly where you are meant to be.

When Screenshots Speak Louder Than Denials

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In East Brunswick, and in many small towns like ours, there is an unspoken rule that often gets overlooked: the internet lives forever. We remind our kids of this lesson all the time, warning them that once something is posted online, it can never truly be erased. Yet, when it comes to adults in our own community, the same rule suddenly feels negotiable.

It’s not uncommon for someone to post a strong opinion on a public forum, only to get upset later when their own words are repeated back to them. Even when screenshots exist as proof, there’s a tendency to call it “misrepresentation” or to shift blame elsewhere. But here’s the reality—if it was said in a public space, it was meant to be seen. And once seen, it can be saved, shared, and referenced. That’s not misrepresentation. That’s accountability.

The truth is, many of us enjoy the convenience of online platforms when we want to express ourselves. But when those same platforms reflect our words back in ways we no longer find convenient, suddenly it feels like a trap. The fact is, nobody is immune from their own record. Whether it’s a forum, Facebook comment, or group discussion, if you put it out there, it belongs to the public conversation.

So maybe the lesson isn’t just for our kids. Maybe it’s for all of us. Before typing something in a rush of emotion, we might want to pause and remember: screenshots don’t disappear, and the internet doesn’t forget. In small towns like East Brunswick, where community conversations matter, our words don’t just fade away—they shape how neighbors see us tomorrow and beyond.

Don’t Be a Like This GUY: Dr. Braun Teaches A Lesson

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In one of East Brunswick’s community forums this week, a post from Bobby lit up the comments section. He asked whether voters should support a candidate who “outed their own child’s private challenges.”

On the surface, it looked like a call for discretion. But to many in the community, it read more like an attack.

Neighbors quickly chimed in. M.C. noted the negativity that seems to dominate these spaces, saying there are “nicer ways of going about it.” J.R. pointed out that “challenges are not shameful,” while A.A. reminded everyone that seeking help has nothing to do with one’s ability to serve as a board member. Others, like D.M. and A.M., pushed back hard on the tone of the post, calling it narrow-minded and even “gross.”

And then came the voices that really cut through the noise — Dr. Braun’s family. Her adult children stepped in to clarify that they had given consent for their stories to be shared, stressing that they are proud their mom is working to destigmatize ADHD, autism, and other challenges. One wrote: “Dr. Braun shared our stories to show understanding. Don’t twist her words.”

Finally, Dr. Braun herself responded. In a long, thoughtful comment, she explained that she respects her children’s privacy, always asks permission, and shares their struggles not to seek sympathy but to help other families feel less alone. She spoke of the stigma families still face when raising children with special needs, recalling the shame, bullying, and judgment she and her kids endured. And then she turned it outward — reminding everyone that sharing stories isn’t weakness, it’s leadership.

That’s the difference between tearing down and lifting up.

While B.A.’s post was meant to plant doubt, Dr. Braun’s calm, heartfelt response showed why she came across as the voice of reason in the discussion. She didn’t deflect. She didn’t attack. She reminded everyone that empathy, honesty, and openness are strengths — not flaws.

So the lesson here is simple: Don’t like this guy!

If our town is going to move forward, it will take leaders — and neighbors — who understand that compassion is not a liability. It’s the foundation of trust.